Tag: do the right thing

Something You Have, Something You Are, and Something You Know.

A few random thoughts and general observations.

Big Ass Mug Of Get Shit Done

Big Ass Mug Of Get Shit Done

Earlier today, I mentioned this was the “great trifecta” referring back to a security premise for a three-factor authentication. As it happens, someone pointed out something startlingly clear, they do matter, but not digitally, at least not in the method intended. It is an analog solution to s digital problem and I get it and obviously not engaging that discussion anymore because I would rather write blog posts like these. It’s been a beast of a day, and I want to end it in a manner more satisfying to myself, as opposed to the semantics of shit I am not emotionally invested enough in to go into a twitter discussion over it. In short, it’s bed time and I would rather write about something else. Take that however the frak you want, chances are this post wasn’t written for you. Happy reading šŸ˜‰

Something you Have…
Something you have is an item (or multiple items) that characteristically makes you unique in a million ways. I wont suppose to pre-define more, the idea of the characteristics are enough. They are variable in scope that is it patently easy say that we have a clear identity by their existence, even if that clarity presents an obvious lack of an item, a presence, or identity. Not to sound all Sun Tzu. Honestly the “something you have” could be confidence, could be intellect, an abundance or deficit of any other characteristic possessed. Me? I have a lot. I have pictures from a time before cell phones invaded every bit of our lives, I have written letters from exes from a time before we laughably though email was private. I have tons of mementos, at least something from almost every year of my life I think. A collection of things I have…this is me. Today, my prize possession is a friend, specifically knowing that friend is still alive tonight as I get ready to sleep, when it looked grim earlier, and hours of talking and de-escalating pay off long enough for the friend to understand that this life isn’t so bad. Literally talking someone off the edge is scary, but worth it, because I still have my friend.

Something you Are…
I am just a guy, I am at the top of my career, well-educated, I don’t regret much nowadays (except my weight) because there is a little bit of satisfaction in making sure you do the right thing in moral situations. But there are a million things about who i am that clearly needed to happen to lead me to today…a day that was busy, crazy, crazier, testing me, diagnosing me, me testing others, me mentoring others, other mentoring me and eventually…becoming a better person one day at a time. This is who I am. I keep hearing this in tv and it makes me smile. Some people run away from the fire, some people run into the fire. I run into the fire. It’s obviously not a superior process of longevity, but the premise of running into the fire is a fundamental flaw in our society I think…however noble. In the end, self-preservation is is expected…in some places here in the world it is actually the law. So in the end, I am flawed, but in a way that society accepts solely because they fear experiencing a situation that harm them without our presence. If we were wired otherwise, we wouldn’t need a fire department…now I am sure I am rambling because this is exactly how old fire teams used to work, a they were your neighbors and community that were nearby to man a bucket-line, right? Any bottom line, I am a guy that will run into the fire…it doesn’t bother me unless I try to rationalize it, so I don’t…acceptance, like ignorance…is bliss. That’s me. šŸ˜‰

Something I Know…
Well this is easy…I know fundamentally everything other than that which I have not yet learned. A propensity for stroking and slighting the ego in one sentence? CHECK. I know my memory is just good enough that my bother constantly complains that I remember far too much embarrassing things about us as kids. I know enough of many languages to pull off being incredibly literate and functionally illiterate in one sentence. Remember that propensity mentioned earlier?..CHECKED AGAIN. I know that I don’t know everything, but I remember more than I forget, so my progress is good, and more often than not, I might be the smartest guy in the room…which is almost always also the room I am leaving as quickly as possible. I live to learn, constantly. The scope of what I know isn’t really squat, but it is enough that I’ve pulled off managing IT for **arbitrary number** WHOA over 50 companies…(I went ahead and counted…and stopped counting at 50 šŸ˜‰ So it could be supposed I know something about that stuff. I would certainly suppose such, but I also know how to use oil pastels on canvas and how to smoke the perfect pork loin. I also know how to use a radio, and 15-20 years ago I could have pulled off some higher math while simultaneously knocking down a bottle of Grand Marnier. I know that betting/prompting a drunk friend to write a virus in minute on my roomie’s computer would probably have gotten me kicked out, still did it…but I know not to do such things anymore. I also know that everyone everywhere should act like they are wearing a cape more and act like they wear a uniform less. The world needs more role models, and I know I am obligated to try and be better.

In summation, I helped a friend stay alive tonight, I got a lot of work done, had an great conversation with good people this evening, and ended the evening with reading a great book rather than engaging in an argument on Twitter about shit that doesn’t matter anyway. Yep, another unique amazing day.

I know I am a dork. Be excellent to each other.

-T




Be a good person.

This is actually a quote from a really cool guy I met via another cool friend on Facebook. He fairly regularly posts some pretty insightful stuff, and this one really caught me.

So you want to be a good person? Do what’s right? Here’s the deal, you’re going to be hated…Hated for reasons you’ll never fully understand. People are going to say things about you: lies and over exaggerations about your past. People are going to take advantage of you, cheat you, lie to you, steal from you because you know it’s no good to be untrusting. You will be taken for granted. You will not be respected and you will suffer and, yet, you will walk with grace through it all…and grow and grow and you won’t stop…because you made a commitment…and it’s far from the easy path…but you are good person…stay true…do the right thing and, in the end, nothing will stop you. Being good is it’s own reward. It will all make sense in time…and remember, you weren’t always a good person yourself.

-Aaron Manley Smith

He’s right. When you think about it, doing good things IS it’s own reward. There are a tons of people out there that are under the mistaken impression that they will not succeed if they don’t take the time to stop and help others do the same, and I feel bad for them, because in doing good things, you lead by example. You teach others that you should never be reluctant in helping those that need it.

A couple months ago a friend and I were driving back to Dallas from a long trip visiting friends, and the craziest thing happened. We’re on our side of the highway, and the lanes going the other direction we at least 20 yards away, but something was really wrong because I was seeing headlights directly ahead of us and coming fast. I swerved quickly onto the shoulder of the highway as a sports car zoomed by at about 60mph going the wrong direction on the tollway. My friend and I just kindof looked back stunned wondering what the hell just happened. We then called the state troopers and let them know about it. Just as we finished the call and were about to pull back onto the highway, a truck pulled up behind us.

The driver got out and walked up to my window and asked if I needed help. Why? Because I had my blinkers on and it was late at night. He wasn’t some horror figure from a bad movie, he was being a good person. I kick myself when I remember this because THAT is the exact kind of person I like to meet. I wish I had gotten his name so I could invite him over to meet the crew, etc.

If we as a society made sure to impress this behavior as a moral obligation rather than playing the ignorance or indifference cards I think our lives would be quite a bit better. I know I come off as a bit hardcore about this type of perspective though. I still tell people this, “The only divinity you will ever experience is your own.” It’s not meant to discredit anyone’s beliefs, it’s meant to get people to make an effort to make and experience their own miracle. I think walking THAT path affords you a far brighter journey.

Just my .02 šŸ˜‰

-Tony




Challenge yourself.

Just to be clear, this one struck a nerve and I have oodles of material, experience, and research coming at you in one big post.

The theme…no…the point…is the impression we make on the children around us. In a civilized and rational world, the previous sentence alone should give cause for anyone to think before they act in front of any child. It doesn’t matter if it’s their own or not. Here is the video that go me started on this, and I really would up that even the reluctant readers (aka my friends) would heed this small request…watch the video, and read this post.

As children, we act under the impression that what we see adults do is good. We act under the impression that the acts we see are those of a deific being whose experience in life has led them to an ability to take action in such a good manner that it could only be construed as the right way of doing things. Adults always do the right thing, right. How else could they live? It’s simple isn’t it? As adults we try to teach our children that it isn’t that simple…maybe that’s where we fail. Instead of continuing on a path of leading by example we lead by ignoring what we know to be poor judgment and act on whim…yielding an example that shows the depths of our own carelessness.

Now, as my friends and family read I am positive there will be some thoughts and mutterings of hypocrisy in ME being the guy writing about this. The truth is I’m still learning. I am still in awe…and it’s been a VERY long time since I was one of the characters shown in that video. Out of the vast oceans of experience in what not to do as a child, teenager, and adult…I managed to come out with a very clear perspective of the right and wrong of it…all of it. Tons of people ask me when I am going to have my own *grin*…well the truth is that while I’ve come close, the biggest thing holding me back is living in a society that will in fact teach my child a million poor habits for every good one I impart by way of example and genetics. It’s not fear…it’s caution (we’ll leave out that no girlfriend has an impact too but thats not my point *grin*). I am just using my own point of view to show the importance of our actions around our kids.

I read this article HERE. It’s the story of a lady’s trip to Sweden and her awe in the difference in culture. It holds just as much impact for me as the video, please read if you get the time.

Now I happen to think my friends and family have given birth to the most beautiful bunch of munchins the earth will ever see and am blessed in knowing how strongly they watch over and nurture their kids. The depths by which examples are made are astounding and I am kindof loving the huge pool of experience I am going to be able to dip into when I have my own. The scary part is the examples I see outside my friends and family though. The cultural experience M. Brittany Shahmehri wrote about in the link above was just amazing and inspired me to write more about this.

While a video or an article may motivate us, I think in reality we have only to reflect on our own experiences to gain a clarity in leading by example. In providing that example, I think we shine so much more. Challenge yourself just a little to be the good impression kids remember.

Here are some cool sites with loads of programs and materials to read:
NAPCAN
Australian Child abuse prevention organization. That’s their video in the article.

Childfriendly.org
Organization that focuses on a think-global act-local practice where groups everywhere do what they can locally to raise a little awareness. Cool group.

What Kind of Mother am I
This was a paper I ran into while researching. I am not a fan of the website’s interface but it is a good read if you can bear it.

Teach Empathy: Leading by Example
Small article with big points to be aware of.

If you have any books on this particular subject that seem to be the real deal I would love to hear them. Using critics’ opinions off the web is usually about as useful as a pair of ice skates in the desert.

Thanks for reading!

-Tony